General Information

Why does a person seek therapy?

“People pursue therapy for many different reasons. Therapy can be helpful for thinking something through with a person who has no knowledge of the immediate situation. It can also be helpful when an individual has a problem that they are interested in solving. Therapy can be seen as going for consultations (second opinions), solving issues or problems, or exploring motivations for behaviors(sic)”.

John D Wood Phd

People come to therapy for many reasons; some internal – they realise they have reached a turning point in their life; or external – they have been directed to therapy by the courts, employers, friends or family because they have a problem, which is affecting their interaction with the world.

The specific situation can vary so much – one man’s worry is another man’s joy. Examples of these conditions might be addiction such as drink, drugs, sex; anxiety, stress and depression which are also very prevalent in today’s society; emotional issues such as divorce, loss, and change in circumstance can bring about many problems. There may be problems that hold a person back, from being the person they can or perhaps want to be. Relationships, sex, abuse, and violence can and do play a part in someone’s reason for seeking therapy.

If you had a problem, such as a phobia, anxiety, stress or lack of confidence for example, you often been told to "pull yourself together!", "don't be so silly!", "get on with it!".

But life isn't as simple as that. In some/many cases, you can't just pull yourself together, that's why you feel the way you do. As we move further into the 21st Century, we have begun to realise that we do need help for our worries, stresses and strains. The same way that you'd phone a plumber to fix your broken pipe, you can now phone a therapist to help you cope with your problem.

There is a difference between the plumber and the therapist. The plumber will come to fix your pipe; the therapist will help YOU to overcome your fear or anxiety.

Therapy, good therapy, is about helping you. There's no quick fix, it's not magic. The therapist can not click his or her fingers and wish your worries away. However, with a proper course of therapy, with care and empathy, a therapist can help you back onto your feet. Because that's where you want to be. That's where you can be.